You always have a choice

6 min readOct 10, 2021

“Negativity is cannibalistic. The more you feed it, the bigger and stronger it grows.”- Bobby Darnell

“Rewire your brain and catapult your results in life and business.”

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” Epictetus

FRANCO CIANFLONE B.Sc. Ed. M. Ed. LSC CS MENTAL TOUGHNESS FOR LIFE Certified Corporate Trainer, Educator, Business Consultant, Author & Entrepreneur.

Franco Cianflone is a graduate of the internationally acclaimed Bill Gove Speech Workshop with a Corporate Speaker designation. His extensive corporate training includes Bob Proctor, Paul Martinelli, and training seminars/sessions with Steve Siebold, John Maxwell, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Mark Victor Hansen, and many others. He is the author of sixteen books to date and co-founder of Mini Bytes For The Brain.

Fifty years of Education and Business leadership compliments his mission to transform and catapult the results of individuals everywhere on the globe as far as Australia. His life mantra is, “Others will be looking at the fire while you are walking through the fire towards your victory and success”.

Once an event has taken place there is absolutely nothing that you can do to alter it. However, you are fully in control of what happens to you emotionally after the event. Your thinking at this point creates your circumstances.

In order to release negativity or non-productive thinking release the event or individual with the HSPP factor. This is the script and it works perfectly if you are serious about releasing the negativity.

The universe is always listening.

“I absolutely release (name of individual or event) to (his/her/its) highest good of happiness, success, prosperity and peace of mind.”

The latter sounds unimaginable in an algorithmic, digital world however the universe always listens attentively. There is a cause and effect of every single word that is transmitted.

“God’s gift to you is more talent and ability than you will ever use in one lifetime. Your gift to God is to develop and utilize as much of that talent and ability as you can, in this lifetime.” — Steve Bow

Win for life and do not continue any longer to listen to the negative X factor voice on your shoulder that tells you that you’re stupid, fat, worthless, ambitionless, poor, helpless, dependent, lazy and that you would never amount to anything.

If you do, ultimately, you will become faceless. The end result is no purpose, no mission, no self-worth and no money. This is not you and you clearly know this.

You need to kick that X factor to the curb once and for all. That unique person inside of you will thank you for the rest of your life. Do not employ rationalization any longer, as this is a tool intended to tell lies to your conscious mind. This is also a great defense mechanism for anyone that is in a dead-end job, dead-end relationship or dead-end purpose in life.

You always get what you tolerate.

Do not tolerate it any longer, as we are all a work in progress.

Think of David.

David was stuck in a hunk of marble for 40 years prior to emerging as a 17-foot giant in 1504 under the very capable, creative hand of Michelangelo.

“Live with intention. Walk to the edge. Listen hard. Practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Appreciate your friends. Continue to learn. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is.” — Mary Anne Radmacher

It doesn’t have to be perfect. Life does not have to be perfect, as robots and clones do not have any fun whatsoever.

You don’t have to dissect, compartmentalize or analyze everything to death.

You are exactly where you need to be at this juncture in your journey.

Earl Nightingale stated, “Success is really nothing more than the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. This means that any person who knows what they are doing and where they are going is a success. Any person with a goal towards which they are working is a successful person.”

Take some quiet time and discover your worthy ideal and the rest will take care of itself.

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.” — Albert Einstein

I live in a body.

I am not my body.

The Body is a mass of molecules in a high speed of vibration. In fact, there are approximately 11 million kilowatt hours per pound, potential energy locked up in the electrons of the atoms of your body. And everyone is walking around saying . . .“I’m so tired and just dragging my . . .”

Emotionally charged ideas that are either positive or negative create a frequency in your body that causes a vibration. Your body moves into vibration according to your emotion. That’s why I always say managing your ego, emotion and reaction to the best of your ability avoids fallout.

Feeling is a word; we invented, to describe the conscious awareness of the vibration that our mind and body is in.

How do you feel?

I feel great.

I feel crappy.

I feel lonely.

I feel happy.

Any of these statements and more creates this vibratory scenario mentioned above. Our responsibility is to be vitally concerned and very diligent in recognizing the kind of ideas we are emotionally involved in. It’s the vibration that the body is in that determines how the body acts.

The body’s behavior patterns or actions are being caused by the kind of ideas in the subconscious mind that doesn’t have a clue of what is real or imagined. The subconscious mind simply carries out the marching orders.

Most people think the way that they have been conditioned to think. So, think before you seriously think about what you’re thinking about. Take it off autopilot and move it into design-pilot. In other words, be very clear about what you want, right down to the last detail of your picture, as your subconscious mind does not have a sense of humor. Repeat a prosperity affirmation daily.

Make prosperity a habit. Let go of your past and embrace the future. There is absolutely nothing that you can do by regurgitating the past over and over again.

Focus on the future, as you are able to devote your present moment energy towards that end.

You always have a choice.

Utilize it.

Onward and Godward.

Carpe Momentum

Franco Cianflone


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