The one foot in and one foot out dilemma

4 min readAug 30, 2020

“Many beautiful people live the one foot in and one foot out existence. The problem with this approach is that ultimately the gap between the two feet widen and you are thrown out of balance and nothing really works effectively in your life.” Franco Cianflone


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The one foot in and one foot out dilemma

“I’ve got more important things to think about. I’ve got a yogurt to finish by today, the expiry date is today.” — Gordon Strachan

Almost everything has an expiry date. As soon as we reach the expiry date, we discard the item.

However, our dreams, goals, and aspirations do not have an expiration date as we are continually creating and moving towards fuller expression and fuller expansion.

This inner eye of understanding allows us to cut through supposed obstacles like a slice of cheese.

Your destination cannot be realized by continually travelling on the perimeter highway or the ring road that is commonly known as the comfort zone.

Ultimately, we all have to cut to the core with decisive action.

Zig Ziglar’s quote sums it up succinctly, “It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action and discipline that enabled us to follow through.”

Many beautiful people live the one foot in and one foot out existence. The problem with this approach is that ultimately the gap between the two feet widen.

As a result, you are thrown out of balance and nothing really works effectively in your life.

Here it is!

The one foot in represents what you know and the one foot out represents what you do.

Knowing and doing are polar opposites.

You have heard this many times.

People don’t care how much you know.

They want to know how much you care.

You demonstrate your ability to care with these words, care, trust, help, listen, observe and serve.

As a result, people will always choose to follow you and your leadership because they want to and not because they have to.

Really care about people by listening and not just hearing.

Be selective, as some people will want to tell you all about their life and how bad it is.

You demonstrate how much you care by listening and encouraging them to persist regardless of present circumstances.

Don’t encourage negativity but rather encourage proactive behavior. Your caring will develop trust and your trust will also enable more listening and real interaction.

Trust is not easily given.

It must be earned and the only way to earn trust is to treat people with respect and provide the necessary information that will enable them to make intelligent proactive decisions.

Full disclosure and due diligence is what it’s all about.

When it becomes habitual, you don’t even think about it.

You just do it!

This knowing doing gap, which prevents people from following through, becomes very, very narrow.

Now, take care of that yogurt and get on with it.

Carpe Momentum

Franco Cianflone


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Learning & Development Specialist, Author, musician, composer FRANCO CIANFLONE B.S. Ed. M. Ed. CS IACS MENTAL TOUGHNESS FOR LIFE PUBLICATION (USA) c2007